No. FIFA 14 does not support cross-platform play between Xbox 360 and PlayStation 3. You cannot matchmake, invite, or play online together across these consoles.
EA shut down FIFA 14 servers on October 18, 2018 (360/PS3/PC). Online modes no longer function at all. Only offline modes (Kick-Off, Career, Tournaments, Ultimate Team offline) remain playable.
If you want online football with a friend on different platforms, you both need current-gen hardware and a recent FIFA/FC title.